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How to Conquer Fear

How to Conquer Fear

“Fear melts when you take action towards a goal you really want.” – Robert Allen
Let me start off this chapter by saying that there is nothing wrong with having fear. We have fear because of the unknown, that’s all. There is something we haven’t done before, and we aren’t sure of what will happen. We don’t want to be rejected, we don’t want to be ridiculed, and we don’t want to fail.

A fear is nothing but a belief that you create for yourself. Many times, it has little basis in reality, especially amongst entrepreneurs. Here is an easy way to think of fear,

False Expectations Appearing Real

The only way you can ensure success, is to do what others won’t do. Successful people take the extra steps THROUGH the fear, and do what 99% of the population either won’t or can’t do. That is when you will become successful.

Many people fear failure. The thing about failure, as mentioned before, is that nothing bad every really happens to us when we fail. We might feel upset for a bit, but failure is nothing but feedback which lets you know that there is something you need to change. Almost without exception, you will get some sort of new inspiration, a new idea, or a new development that will allow you to go further and be successful in the future.

If you’re afraid of failure wouldn’t it feel good to know there is a business out there for you that cannot fail unless you quit trying? How liberating is that? How empowered do you feel to know that you CANNOT fail at something? Go back to the chapter on network marketing and read it again.

Affirmation, Hand on Your Heart:

“I am fearless in my business because I am infinitely abundant. My inner wisdom knows I have nothing to fear, therefore I do not.”

Types of Fears in Business

Fear of Ridicule:

“Don’t tell my mom I’m a network marketer, she thinks I’m a piano player at a whorehouse…..” People often let silly fears like this hold them back from success. Again, these fears are nothing but beliefs that have little or no basis in reality, and you can clear them very easily. If someone ridicules you for trying to better yourself and your lifestyle, then feel sorry for them, forgive them, and love them. Also, remember that if you see that flaw in someone, it is also somewhere deep within yourself, so use the Ho’ oponopono technique again to get rid of this fear.

Fear of Rejection:

This is mankind’s largest fear. We are social animals, and want to know that we are being accepted by the group. You may be afraid that your friends, family, and co-workers will reject you for trying something new. Again, please consider that this is a simple belief that has no basis in reality. If you know for a fact someone will react in a negative manner, avoid that person, because you don’t need that energy in your life. Your success will change their mind when they see you succeeding.

There is a word for people who are jealous of others, and ridicule and reject them based on their level of prosperity. They are called “Haters.” Understand that these “haters” do not hate you, but they only hate themselves because your success reflects something or everything they wish to have or be in life. You can actually get these guys on your side if you wish, by offering to help and train them for success.

Fear of everything else:


Whatever your fear may be, whether it is asking for the sale, public speaking, of getting fired, these are all beliefs that can be overcome with a little rationale. I can tell you all day long these are beliefs, but you have to prove it to yourself by stepping up to the plate and conquering the fear.

How to Conquer Fear:

“We need to practice acting in spite of fear, in spite of doubt, in spite of worry, in spite of uncertainty, in spite of inconvenience, in spite of discomfort, and even to practice acting when we’re not in the mood to act.”   – T. HarvEker

Take Action. All of your fears and doubts will be dissolved when you take action in them.

Here is a quick way to start taking action in conquering your fears:

Ask yourself the following questions about each of the fears you can isolate:

* Is there a serious threat involved? If so, how serious is it?
* What is the worst that can happen?
* Is it likely that the worse will happen?
* What can I do to minimize or mitigate the threat level?

Be aware that almost all fears can be conquered through proper preparation, and other things just take practice and experience.

Once you complete these questions, write down on paper, and manifest the final outcome you would like to see after confronting your fears.

For example, if you have a fear of public speaking, write down something to the effect of: “After I was finished speaking, I received a standing ovation for my inspirational message.” Whatever feels good for you will work. I do this with business meetings all the time. I take 60 seconds to visualize how I want the meeting to go. I see myself going through the meeting, and the feeling of elation and joy after the meeting was successful.

Another idea is to attract the way you want people to treat you. If you are afraid of your friends or family ridiculing you, simply visualize them being very loving and supporting of you and your venture. I know this sounds overly simplistic, but trust me that it works. Also realize that you will not control the way everyone behaves, but you can greatly improve your odds of success through visualization. It will also give you the confidence to approach them in a manner with authority, in which you should not be ridiculed or questioned inappropriately. You will be proud, as you should be, and anyone that will try to rain on your parade should be thrown out like a wet cat. Do not stand for disrespect, be polite, and simply remove them from your existence until further notice.

Perhaps you aren’t afraid of ridicule, but just afraid of the unknown overall. You shouldn’t ever be afraid to try something new if it makes sense. Remember that amateurs built the ark, and professionals built the Titanic.

The best way that I have found for me to conquer my fears, is to remember my “Why.” For instance, I used to have a fear of cold calling, because I really didn’t like the rejection. I would say to myself, “what if this guy is a jerk?” Then finally, I remembered my “Why” and realized that I wanted my lifestyle and to realize my dreams, more than I cared if the next person I called was going to be rude. My “Why” was more important and worth any temporary discomfort I might encounter. I also soon discovered while I was calling that most people just aren’t that rude. I was manifesting rude people, because I had been known to be rude to cold callers in the past. Once I started embracing cold callers, knowing how tough their job is, I began having a LOT more success. I’ve even recruited a few of them into my network marketing business, now how is THAT for change??

The key to conquering your fear is the combination of education and action. Without education, action produces few results. Without action, you are adrift in a boat without a paddle.

I mentioned above that I was afraid of cold calling. I educated myself on proper cold calling techniques to boost my confidence that I would be effective in my action, which I now teach to my students and team, and then I took action after considering my “Why.” After that, my fear was conquered. The education took the longest, and gave me the confidence to move forward.

Here are a few quotes to get you thinking.

I am not afraid of tomorrow, for I have seen yesterday and I love today.
William Allen White

If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.
Marcus Aurelius

The enemy is fear. We think it is hate; but, it is fear.

I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.
Frank Herbert

You are a winner. Winners take action in spite of fear, because their “Why” is strong. Losers let fear stop them because their “Why” is either weak or non-existent. You are a born winner.

Affirmation, Place Your Hand on Your Heart and Say Aloud:

“I am strong and I am a born winner. I move PAST and THROUGH my fears while creating and receiving abundance in my life.”

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In Prosperity,

Jeff Sokol

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