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Your “Why” Will Make You RICH…

Below is an excerpt from my latest book, Get in the Game, published by Tate Publishing.

It is a simple EXERCISE to figure out your “Why”…

You “Why” is your most important tool in your arsenal, because when the fear and doubt starts rearing it’s ugly head, your “WHY” will be there to stand strong and get you immediately back on track.

Some examples of a “Why” are as follows:

  • – I want my children to have a private school education and go to college.
  • – I want more time freedom, to enjoy with my family.
  • – I want to be available to my family for all of the important things, dance recitals, baseball games, etc.
  • – I want a shiny red car…
  • – I want to buy a new home for my family…

The list can go on and on…

I hope the exercise below helps you, and if it does…please share it with others.  Thanks.

Step 1, Defining Your Game (Pen and Paper Exercise)

The first thing we will do is to define your game, the “Game of Life”, if you will.  What do you hold sacred?  What matters most to you?  Obviously you have certain necessities such as food, shelter, clothing, etc., but what about these below:

Take out a sheet of paper, and rate each area listed below from 1-10.  Once you are finished, take a look at it, this is your Cheese, and the beginning of something much greater.  Keep this paper handy because you will need it further into the book.

  • Social Status

Is keeping up with the Jones’ important to you?  Perhaps you are a pillar of your community, or would like to be an important and well-liked citizen.  You might want to even run for some sort of public office.  Social status is important because even though it is purely perception, it makes us feel valuable in society and our community.  Social status gives us a sense of belonging and acceptance which is perfectly fine and normal.  As humans we are social creatures, and in many cases our place in the world is vital to our happiness.

  • Possessions

When we mention possessions, this has different meanings for different people.  For some, it’s a new house or flashy car and to others it is their grandmother’s ring being passed down generation after generation.  We have possessions that often define our personalities.   Consider which possessions you hold dear, be it for deep, sentimental reasons or even seemingly shallow reasons.  No one is being judged, this is an exercise just for you.

  • Family and other loved ones?

Family is extremely important, as they should be your support structure in times of crisis.  No family?  Then use your friends.  Even if you don’t think you have friends, someone out  there loves you, Guaranteed.

  • Security

Security can come in many different forms, whether it is financial security, social security, or even if you keep loaded guns in your home to protect from invasion.  Consider which kind of security is important to you, if at all.

  • Wealth

Do you want a huge yacht or a jet?  Or just be well off enough to not have to work anymore.  If Wealth is important to your happiness, write it down.

  • Health

Whether you want to live to be 142 years old or simply believe that you should eat right, consider how important health is to you in your life.

  • Happiness

Most people don’t choose happiness as high on their lists, because they believe having financial success, time freedom, and loved ones will inherently provide happiness.  Perhaps they are correct.  How important is happiness to you?

  • Freedom

Doing what you want, when you want, how you want, where you want….yes, it is awesome.  But how important is it to YOU?

  • Time

Time to do the things you want to do most in life, your most precious commodity.

  • Love

Love with your significant other, family, friends, or just love for your fellow man.  How does it make you feel and how important is this to you?

Step 2, Developing Your Game (Your Personal Reasons for Achieving Success)

Now that you have your list written down, and rated from 1-10, take the 3 or 4 highest rated valuables and circle them.  This will tell you what you want in your life, and you will be shown you a technique to help you achieve those results and have those things in your life which you hold most dear.  This is a very powerful technique, and is used by nearly every successful person on Earth to get them through the toughest times, and to help them remember “Why” they do what they do, and “Why” they strive for success and give it their all on a daily basis.

The process is called, if you haven’t already guessed, “Finding Your ‘Why’.”

Now let’s go a little deeper into the rabbit hole.  Take the top 2, 3, or 4 valuables and elaborate on them.  For instance, if “Freedom” and “Wealth” are important to you, write down exactly Why it they are important to you.  Dig deep.

As an example, perhaps you want “Freedom to enjoy your family more often, and the wealth to give your children a better childhood than you had growing up, with three for four family vacations a year.”

Write it in this format, “I am committed to achieving Ultimate Success, so I can have the Freedom to be with those that I Love in my family, and the Wealth to give my family the financial Security I never had as a child.”

This process should jerk a tear or two.  If it doesn’t move you, then dig deeper and make it stronger.   When finished, place it in several places where you will see it and read it on a daily basis aloud to yourself, with your hand on your chest.

This is extremely important to your success.  Work on this until it is right…Your Success Depends on this, first and foremost.

If you complete this exercise right now, your chances of success will go up at least one hundred fold.

Step 3, Discovering Affirmations

Affirmations are reinforcements you give to yourself directly on a daily basis to effect a positive change in your life.  You will see positive affirmations throughout this book and they should be taken seriously.  Put your hand on your chest as you say the affirmations, so you can feel the vibrations.  These vibrations will help to anchor the belief into your being, and you will be subconsciously reminded of the affirmation every time you touch your chest.

You might think it is hokey or weird, and if that is the case, ask yourself which is more important; Being Cool, or Realizing the Dreams laid out in your “Why”?

Here is an example of an affirmation, put your hand on your chest and say:

“I am the creator of my own life and my own destiny.  My ‘Why’ is stronger than my fears and doubts, and I Do whatever it takes to Achieve Ultimate Success on a Daily Basis”

As mentioned before, you will see affirmations spread throughout this book, and I highly encourage you to write them down and read them all aloud to yourself as a ritual every day.  You don’t need to light candles or anything, just make it one of your new success habits.

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Jeff Sokol

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Fighting in MLM: Fist Fights Over Money and Pride

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The purpose of this article is about creating peace, and loving those in our industry for who they are, and where they are at the moment.  I know this isn’t exactly going to make local headlines, and won’t create a huge BUZZ around facebook with massive polarity, but this is important.  It is important to realize that when people start something as entrepreneurs, they start out with the best of intentions and sometimes things fail, go bad, or just don’t work out.  Sometimes people get in over their heads and can’t make payouts, etc.

The problem here, is that your reputation will be damaged beyond repair if arrangements aren’t made, people bust their butts to recruit 100 people or more, expecting a $10,000 check, and it just doesn’t ever show up.  One of the brawlers this past weekend sealed his fate with these kinds of stunts.  He should have paid people out, or at least have been honest when things aren’t going right.

Other entrepreneurs, like David Wood and David Sharpe, have seen this kind of adversity and trudged through the mud and the muck to make it out on the other side.  Dirty and sweaty, but otherwise unscathed with some great business experience.  These men were honest the entire time, and put their egos aside for the greater good of the company.  Such integrity is rare and is to be greatly admired.

The point is, in our industry we have a gift, and our job is to give that gift to others.  We have the gift of a HOME BUSINESS.  We can help people make more money in their lives, and accomplish whatever it is they want to accomplish.  Do not give up on that, this is something special.

Did you know that an extra $250 per month would have prevented 90% of the foreclosures in the United States in the past few years??  A SIMPLE $250!

Would it be better to work as a team, no matter what company you are with, and realize that as an industry we are doing something amazing here?  I think it would.

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Love you!

 

Jeff Sokol

 

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How to Conquer Fear

“Fear melts when you take action towards a goal you really want.” – Robert Allen
Let me start off this chapter by saying that there is nothing wrong with having fear. We have fear because of the unknown, that’s all. There is something we haven’t done before, and we aren’t sure of what will happen. We don’t want to be rejected, we don’t want to be ridiculed, and we don’t want to fail.

A fear is nothing but a belief that you create for yourself. Many times, it has little basis in reality, especially amongst entrepreneurs. Here is an easy way to think of fear,

False Expectations Appearing Real

The only way you can ensure success, is to do what others won’t do. Successful people take the extra steps THROUGH the fear, and do what 99% of the population either won’t or can’t do. That is when you will become successful.

Many people fear failure. The thing about failure, as mentioned before, is that nothing bad every really happens to us when we fail. We might feel upset for a bit, but failure is nothing but feedback which lets you know that there is something you need to change. Almost without exception, you will get some sort of new inspiration, a new idea, or a new development that will allow you to go further and be successful in the future.

If you’re afraid of failure wouldn’t it feel good to know there is a business out there for you that cannot fail unless you quit trying? How liberating is that? How empowered do you feel to know that you CANNOT fail at something? Go back to the chapter on network marketing and read it again.

Affirmation, Hand on Your Heart:

“I am fearless in my business because I am infinitely abundant. My inner wisdom knows I have nothing to fear, therefore I do not.”

Types of Fears in Business

Fear of Ridicule:

“Don’t tell my mom I’m a network marketer, she thinks I’m a piano player at a whorehouse…..” People often let silly fears like this hold them back from success. Again, these fears are nothing but beliefs that have little or no basis in reality, and you can clear them very easily. If someone ridicules you for trying to better yourself and your lifestyle, then feel sorry for them, forgive them, and love them. Also, remember that if you see that flaw in someone, it is also somewhere deep within yourself, so use the Ho’ oponopono technique again to get rid of this fear.

Fear of Rejection:

This is mankind’s largest fear. We are social animals, and want to know that we are being accepted by the group. You may be afraid that your friends, family, and co-workers will reject you for trying something new. Again, please consider that this is a simple belief that has no basis in reality. If you know for a fact someone will react in a negative manner, avoid that person, because you don’t need that energy in your life. Your success will change their mind when they see you succeeding.

There is a word for people who are jealous of others, and ridicule and reject them based on their level of prosperity. They are called “Haters.” Understand that these “haters” do not hate you, but they only hate themselves because your success reflects something or everything they wish to have or be in life. You can actually get these guys on your side if you wish, by offering to help and train them for success.

Fear of everything else:

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Whatever your fear may be, whether it is asking for the sale, public speaking, of getting fired, these are all beliefs that can be overcome with a little rationale. I can tell you all day long these are beliefs, but you have to prove it to yourself by stepping up to the plate and conquering the fear.

How to Conquer Fear:

“We need to practice acting in spite of fear, in spite of doubt, in spite of worry, in spite of uncertainty, in spite of inconvenience, in spite of discomfort, and even to practice acting when we’re not in the mood to act.”   – T. HarvEker

Take Action. All of your fears and doubts will be dissolved when you take action in them.

Here is a quick way to start taking action in conquering your fears:

Ask yourself the following questions about each of the fears you can isolate:

* Is there a serious threat involved? If so, how serious is it?
* What is the worst that can happen?
* Is it likely that the worse will happen?
* What can I do to minimize or mitigate the threat level?

Be aware that almost all fears can be conquered through proper preparation, and other things just take practice and experience.

Once you complete these questions, write down on paper, and manifest the final outcome you would like to see after confronting your fears.

For example, if you have a fear of public speaking, write down something to the effect of: “After I was finished speaking, I received a standing ovation for my inspirational message.” Whatever feels good for you will work. I do this with business meetings all the time. I take 60 seconds to visualize how I want the meeting to go. I see myself going through the meeting, and the feeling of elation and joy after the meeting was successful.

Another idea is to attract the way you want people to treat you. If you are afraid of your friends or family ridiculing you, simply visualize them being very loving and supporting of you and your venture. I know this sounds overly simplistic, but trust me that it works. Also realize that you will not control the way everyone behaves, but you can greatly improve your odds of success through visualization. It will also give you the confidence to approach them in a manner with authority, in which you should not be ridiculed or questioned inappropriately. You will be proud, as you should be, and anyone that will try to rain on your parade should be thrown out like a wet cat. Do not stand for disrespect, be polite, and simply remove them from your existence until further notice.

Perhaps you aren’t afraid of ridicule, but just afraid of the unknown overall. You shouldn’t ever be afraid to try something new if it makes sense. Remember that amateurs built the ark, and professionals built the Titanic.

The best way that I have found for me to conquer my fears, is to remember my “Why.” For instance, I used to have a fear of cold calling, because I really didn’t like the rejection. I would say to myself, “what if this guy is a jerk?” Then finally, I remembered my “Why” and realized that I wanted my lifestyle and to realize my dreams, more than I cared if the next person I called was going to be rude. My “Why” was more important and worth any temporary discomfort I might encounter. I also soon discovered while I was calling that most people just aren’t that rude. I was manifesting rude people, because I had been known to be rude to cold callers in the past. Once I started embracing cold callers, knowing how tough their job is, I began having a LOT more success. I’ve even recruited a few of them into my network marketing business, now how is THAT for change??

The key to conquering your fear is the combination of education and action. Without education, action produces few results. Without action, you are adrift in a boat without a paddle.

I mentioned above that I was afraid of cold calling. I educated myself on proper cold calling techniques to boost my confidence that I would be effective in my action, which I now teach to my students and team, and then I took action after considering my “Why.” After that, my fear was conquered. The education took the longest, and gave me the confidence to move forward.

Here are a few quotes to get you thinking.

I am not afraid of tomorrow, for I have seen yesterday and I love today.
William Allen White

If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.
Marcus Aurelius

The enemy is fear. We think it is hate; but, it is fear.
Gandhi

I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.
Frank Herbert

You are a winner. Winners take action in spite of fear, because their “Why” is strong. Losers let fear stop them because their “Why” is either weak or non-existent. You are a born winner.

Affirmation, Place Your Hand on Your Heart and Say Aloud:

“I am strong and I am a born winner. I move PAST and THROUGH my fears while creating and receiving abundance in my life.”

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Jeff Sokol

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Crushing the Comfort Zone

Do not let your comfort zone hold you back!

We touch on this point often in my coaching sessinos, but I find it so vitally important that I am coming back to it in hopes of installing this into your brain for good. Success breeds success. This is not some new age mantra, but rather is one of the cornerstones of successful people.

Do you ever see successful people hanging around negative people? I don’t. I see successful people hanging around other successful people. Is this because they are snobs? No, it isn’t. Poor and unsuccessful people would see it that way, and usually do. “Oh, he thinks he’s too good for us…” Or my favorite, “As soon as he got rich he forgot all about his friends…” I can tell you that 9 times out of 10, or maybe even 99 times out of 100, the person who found success was not being a snob, he just knows that it takes to be successful, and to maintain his success. He knows that in order to be successful, he has to hang around other successful people.

Mr. Success knows that his energy and mindset will be affected in all situations due to harmonic resonance. Therefore, he chooses to put himself in situations where his mindset and energy will be affected in a positive manner, therefore enhancing his own successful attributes.

Before he became successful, he made it a point to start hanging out with more successful people, instead of his high school buddies that never really amounted to much in the way of success. He realized that his income would be the average of the top 5 people he hangs around the most, so he just found other friends. Successful people all do this, which is why you never see successful guys hanging out with guys that decided to make a career of managing a Burger King. There is nothing wrong with the BK path, but if you aspire to do more with your life, then you need to hang out with people with more ambition and drive for success.

As humans, we have a comfort zone in which we like to stay. Our ego minds tell us to stay in this little box, where it is safe, so you don’t get hurt. Our egos are there to protect us, and often times they do. However, these same devices can also hinder our success if we allow them to do so. They can actually keep us from growing. If you are not stepping out of your comfort zone, you are not growing, and therefore you cannot become successful if you do not grow by learning new things and having new experiences. Let me repeat, YOU CANNOT BECOME SUCCESSFUL IF YOU DO NOT GROW BY LEARNING NEW THINGS AND HAVING NEW EXPERIENCES.

Some people, me included, are intimidated at first when it comes to hanging out with successful people. For me the transition was not too big of a deal, because I was raised around successful people, but finding OTHER successful people to befriend was indeed a bit scary. I found that I judged myself too much, and didn’t feel that I was “worthy” to be around them because I hadn’t yet reached success. What a load of BS that turned out to be. You create your own level of worth, and when I realized that, I become unstoppable. From that point forward I could meet anyone from the Burger King Manager to Donald Trump, and feel completely secure.

Stepping out of one’s comfort zone is understandably difficult. I would urge you in this scenario to consider your “Why,” and you will soon discover that there was not much to be afraid of in the first place. Successful people don’t bite, and are usually very polite. We are also very accepting of others who are genuinely looking to better themselves. Therefore, if you are truly looking to increase your level of wealth and success, then you should have no problem finding some eagles in your local area with which you can soar.

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Jeff Sokol

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